I was recently having a drink with an old friend from way back in my school days, having a great time reminiscing about the years gone by. However, he stumped me by saying that he was increasingly having trouble defining his “Purpose”. No, we weren’t in a yoga class or at a “Finding Yourself” retreat, we were having a quiet drink and a bite to eat. Two guys at a bar, having a beer. I didn’t really know how to react or what to say, but am finding this question coming up more and more when I have conversations with clients about career and personal development. A recent post by Samantha Babington caught my eye as she laid out a six point plan to help identify your purpose. I found this really helpful and am using it with my clients to help them identify their own purpose and how to achieve it.
Many of us bumble through life without any clear goals or any articulated purpose – but as we all know, if you don’t have goals, you’ll never score any. If you don’t have a defined purpose, you’ll never achieve it.
Samantha described how she modified her own coaching style to help clients achieve clarity, to tap into their superconscious mind to enable the wisdom of their intuition to guide them to find answers, especially to do with finding their Purpose. In other words, dropping from their head to their heart. Without this Purpose, true happiness is likely to elude us.
So stop for a minute and ask yourself, what is my Purpose? You may find it doesn’t always speak loudly by shouting what it is we must do with our lives. Instead, it often starts off as a subtle whisper in our ear or a tickle in our heart. Try to listen to quiet voice and decode what it is trying to say.
So, if our Purpose is so important, why do so many of us end up never finding it?
The truth is that many people are living a life that they thought they ought to live, following paths prescribed by others rather than doing what is truly right for them. They may have a nagging feeling they are not fulfilling their true Purpose but block this out through fear of change or appearing selfish.
It’s also true that when we are happy and fulfilled we can serve others far better than when we are feeling depleted. There is a saying, ‘You can’t pour from an empty cup’ and that is certainly a guiding principle of self-love that can help us better serve our Purpose…
6 Steps to finding your true Purpose
1. Rediscover your passions. Ask yourself, what is it that lights you up and gives you joy? This can often reveal passions that have lain buried since childhood or have been set aside to accommodate life’s increasing obligations.
2. Identify what gives your life meaning. For example, is it helping and inspiring others? Or is it perhaps overcoming challenges or spending more time with those you love?
3. Our Purpose often lies at the place where our talents and our passions collide. So, what are your unique talents and gifts that you can give to the world? Are there any that you have been suppressing for too long? Again, these are often things that are evident in our early years but then remain locked within the prison of obligation.
4. Do what you love and love what you do. Get out of your head and into your heart. Ask yourself ‘what do I truly love?’ then write down the answers without judging or analysing what you write. Let your intuition guide you.
5. Step out of your comfort zone. Sometimes you just need to try new things to discover your gifts and what it is you truly love, which can lead to you literally stumbling upon your Purpose. What you find may surprise you!
6. Overcome your fear of change. Sometimes you will gain clarity about your Purpose but then are terrified of actually taking the steps to make those changes. In this case, you might want to ask how you would feel if you got to a ripe old age but didn’t make those changes and never fulfilled your Purpose? This can provide a powerful insight that acts as a springboard to taking action.
Samantha concluded with this, “Nowadays, if I come across anyone struggling with the feeling surely there must be more to life than this, I say to them ‘Maybe now is the time to finally listen to that whisper in your ear. It could be your Purpose asking to be heard”. I am now following her lead and look forward to meeting my old school friend again.
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